David Salyers is a marketing Vice President for Chick-fil-a. As I was listening to him talk on Star88.3 about how they hire employees and I was struck by something he said.
Salyers states, “Most business people can tell me what they want from their team members, but very few can tell me what they want for their team members.”
Did you read that? When I heard that I thought, this is exactly what I need as a wife, parent, children’s minister, and so on. What I want from my husband, is not nearly as valuable as what I want for him. The same is true for my children, my church, our KidZone Team members, and for our KidZone kids.
Here’s the deal: I may want help with the kids from my husband. But what I should really want is for Doug to be the spiritual head of my household.
I want clean rooms and brushed teeth from my children. But my greatest desire for them is to love the Lord with all their heart and soul.
From SonLight I may expect good music and hot coffee. What I really need is for the pastors to preach boldly from God’s Word.
I may want reliability from our KidZone Team. What I really want is for each member to love the little children and show them Jesus.
I want obedience and respect from our KidZone kids. But more than anything I want for them to choose Jesus.
Most of all, what does Jesus want for me? He longs for my heart, my hands, my feet, and my tongue to glorify Him. Jesus did not come to be served, but to serve. He wants the Kingdom of God for all of us!
For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many. Mark 10:45(NIV)
The bottom line is that wanting something from others is self-seeking.
Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:4(ESV)
…for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure. Philippians 2:13 (ESV)